3 Easy Ways to Feel Sexier During the Holidays

It’s the time of year when we get more focused on gratitude and giving isn’t it? I am willing to bet that the one thing you are not focusing on enough is taking care of you, and that can make all the difference. I completely understand the pressure to make sure the right gifts are made or bought, that everyone in your life feels special and considered during the holiday season. It’s totally normal to feel frazzled doing things for everyone else, so I am speaking to myself and all of you when I say, please give a little time for yourself in the midst of the season of giving.

What can we do to feel nurtured, rested and loved? It’s often so busy in our lives as women that we don’t take the time to connect with ourselves and the wellspring of love, energy, pleasure and joy that surrounds us. Feeling loved, having awesome sex and amazing orgasms has to start somewhere, so here are some basics to support your journey, especially during this time of year.

These ideas may help you to feel nurtured, sexy, and beautiful. They don’t take much extra time and can be easily done regularly. You are so loved and it’s very important for you to be treating yourself in a loving way. Remember that you are letting everyone around you know how you would like to be treated by the way you treat yourself.

1. Take a bath, make it smell pretty, light candles if you have the time, but if you don’t just spend time actually massaging and appreciating all of the parts of your body. You have to wash anyway, so instead of doing it to get it over with quickly, make it feel good! Spend extra time on the parts that feel the best. Set a timer for 5-15 minutes and don’t stop until the timer is done. Enjoy the warm water and let it soothe you. You will be surprised at how much awesome massaging you can get in with a small amount of extra time. (This also works in the shower if you don’t always take a bath.)

2. Put on music you enjoy. In the shower or bath, or while you do something else and make sure to DANCE to the music. Let those hips release and roll. Besides being great for dancing, music sets the mood and contributes to the enviroment so think about what mood you want to create. For example, in the evening, after my kids go to bed, we like to turn on some sexy music to start our evening together, it’s a much different mood than turning on the TV.

3. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful, either as underclothing or outer clothing. This can change your vibe in the world and it changes the way your partner looks at you, especially when only the two of you are in on it!

I hope one or all of these things will help you to feel more sexy and connected with your inner goddess during the holidays and throughout the year. You are a beautiful and powerful being and you are worthy of great ecstasy and amazing experiences of love and they begin with YOU!

The Power of Ecstasy and Why You Need it Now!

There is a lot of activity happening energetically lately, how are you feeling? Are you feeling strong, centered, grounded in your power? You know, your power, the remembering of the deep truth within you that connects you to all that is, to GOD, LOVE, and COMPASSION?

We hear it everywhere, “You are so powerful,” but what does that really mean and what can we do with it? If we think about it, power is associated with the ability to affect a change in direction, or feeling, or personal response. Our power is a connectedness with GOD, oneness, all that is, and how we channel that energy as we allow it to flow through us.

Healers are powerful, perhaps the most powerful of all. There are healers of belief, healers of heart, healers of mind, healers of souls, healers of bodies. As humans, we access power with the human limitations we choose to believe in. The fewer limits we accept, the more powerful we can be. The power to heal, to change things and to love is not of this world, but through us it comes into this world. Through the connection to all that is, creator GOD, light, love, divine mother, we have been given the amazing opportunity to manifest actual healing on our planet, in our society and in our personal lives. We call our planet Mother Earth, notice how powerful that feels? The DIVINE FEMININE is always there,  WE are created in her image, as healers, leaders and lovers. So, in case this seems unfamiliar to you, here is a suggestion of how you can use your power to heal.

The feminine that heals, births, loves and nurtures is the power that can and will heal humanity. The tide is shifting all around us, it must shift and yet we have to continue to attend to the balance of the feminine with the masculine energy for the health and welfare of everyone, neither can do it alone. It is so important to stay centered in our power to be peace makers and healers.  You are a powerful healer for yourself, your relationship, for your children, your community. You choose everyday to be more connected to your core power, your divine feminine, the goddess within you. One of the strongest and most valuable places you can feel this connection is in sexual union. Feeling the amazing power of orgasm, love, and ecstasy is a clear reminder that there is a vibration available to us beyond our daily experience. There is physical, psychological and spiritual healing occurring during those sexual experiences of love and connection. One of the many purposes of this beautiful union is to heal us, to allow healing to flow through us and channel that healing into the rest of our lives.

The masculine and the feminine are meant to work in divine harmony, focused in love, united in spirit and body in the best and most sacred examples. Look at the gorgeous, powerful, ecstatic ways we give and grow and feel in our intimate relationships. I believe there is so much to be learned from diving deeply into the connection with our feminine and looking with the eyes of healers, lovers and mothers at the divine masculine and the world. We can call out the best in the masculine and the feminine, we can raise the standards, we can refuse to accept less than love in our own lives, in our communities and on our planet. We can choose to charge our lives with ecstasy and light up the world with the that healing and love.

I am wishing you peace, love, and tons and orgasmic healing flowing through you to the world!

 

You Are Absolutely Worth It!

When I talk to women about what I do, helping women to with better, hotter, more orgasmic and more connected sex lives in their marriages, I often get these responses;

“It’s too much work.”

“Why would I even try, I’m already busy and tired.”

or

“We gave that up years ago, my husband has no sex drive (or has erectile dysfunction)  and I just don’t care anymore.”

Hey, if you both really don’t care about sex and are totally happy without it, I’m not going to try and convince you. I would ask you to consider a few things. Are you really both happy without it? If you think of your ideal happy relationship, life, etc…, does it really not include awesome sex, amazing orgasms and beautiful moments of pure naked connection between you and your husband? Sex is important for both sexes, but did you know that it is especially important for women psychologically and spiritually?

Why is sex important for women? Why do orgasms, both the quality and quantity matter? Why do I think this is such an important and valuable subject that I am committed to raising awareness about it? The simple answer is that sex actually affects everything about a woman’s life. Our relationship to ourselves, our partners, our families, our careers, the world and our sense of purpose here in it. The power, chemical synergy in our bodies, sense of confidence, motivation, worthiness and creativity are all boosted, inspired and activated by great sex!

Knowing what you want sexually, desiring and pursuing great sex creates a flow of dopamine, resulting in a hormonal cocktail of motivation, energy, focus and euphoria that extends into every other part of your life. This system works beautifully in our bodies when our desire and anticipation of sex culminates in fulfilling, orgasmic sex which creates another hormonal cocktail of bliss and euphoria.It completes the perfect cycle of hormonal, emotional and physical triggers and we get the outcome of feeling joyful, loving, powerful and at one with our lover and universe! Our lives are more inspired, our anger melts away, we feel more connected to our husbands and compassion and love play much larger roles in our lives, everything is better!

So, who wouldn’t want that? If that isn’t how it feels for you, there is some science to explain what may have happened. If our bodies learned that the arousal or feeling desire and being aroused did not lead to fulfilling sex and orgasms, eventually our bodies learn that there is nothing to get excited about, so all of the positive benefits diminish and the lack of hormones dull your arousal, sensation and experience to sex and life in general. It may have been that you were young and inexperienced for a long time. Maybe you didn’t feel comfortable with your own sexuality, or didn’t have the communication skills to work it out with your husband.  It’s likely that your husband, (or previous long term sexual parter), didn’t know better and thought 5 minutes, (give or take) of penetration should have done it for you because it was enough for him. Regardless of the reason, you may now have apathy about sex because of the years you just didn’t know better. The great news is that you can re-train your body for new and better responses and start wanting and enjoying sex more than you ever have before. What do you have to loose? If you are already not having amazing sex, it can only get better!

Giving up on the awesome gifts that amazing sex brings to our lives, for any reason, is tragic! As we mature into our thirties, forties and fifties, we enter into an entirely new and amazing phase of sexual development. You may have heard that women have a sexual peak in their 40’s and I’m here to say that it’s a real thing. Not only are we more empowered in own our own sexiness, but our bodies are able to experience pleasure in different ways and we are much more likely to be feeling more accepting and loving to ourselves. This is related to less self judgement, releasing concern about what others think, a view of the bigger picture, and a shift in energy focus. Finally, as our fertility wanes, we reach an age where sex can be just for love, pleasure, fun and connection.

 

Here’s what you need to know. Regardless of your past experiences with sex, you are normal. Did you know that men’s sex organs all have multiple purposes, but only women have a body part, the clitoris, with more nerve endings than any other part of our bodies, by A LOT, and it is solely for the purpose of sexual pleasure? We were literally created to have pleasure without procreation! That tells us that it is important to our lives in ways that most of us have not yet embraced.

What would it be like to take the beautiful, loving, amazing, orgasmic, ecstatic sex in your life to new and powerful levels? Imagine the places that creative energy and motivation could take you. Of the thousands of ways you may have heard to shift your attitude and make your life better, investing time in having greater sex has got to be among the most fun and rewarding! Create the vision of a more amazing sex life, talk about it with your husband and get some support if you need help, but know that you are worth it, great sex is worth it, your marriage is worth it, and most of all, YOU ARE WORTH IT!

 

I love to support women on this journey, if you are inspired or just curious about taking the path to a better life through better sex, I would love to coach you. I offer a free initial coaching session, contact me at veronica@OMGmonogamy.com  and we will set up a time to talk soon.

Wishing you tons of ecstasy,

 

Veronica

OMG Monogamy

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